Zero F*ck -- don't give a damn
Hello! I'm back! after a pretty long time - charot! This morning, I woke up at 9, tried my very best to get back to sleep, and failed. Anyway, there is a reason why I haven't been logging in blog hours lately. I've been spending too much time having a life. Yeah' as I said, I have a life people, aside from giving a damn in so much things lately. Yikes! It's my 4th time now to write my next entry.. rattling my brain as to what to post and I'm stumped. I love writing, but for some reasons I cannot seem to find the right words and spirit to express my feelings lately. My thoughts weren't organized again. I've been trying but there's nothing coming out. Is it co'z nothing significant or grand something happening in my life right now therefore I have nothing to write about? hahah! It's weird and sad, I feel like I am starting to lose my motivation again and again due to my little hectic schedule - choz! .. So what's to right about? hmm,
CURRENTLY
Listening:
Everybody's Changing by Keane
"So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move just to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing
And I don't feel the same"
One of my fave song from Keane. Another perfect song for this hour. aylavet!
Thinking:
A lot of things! as in, mapa-negative and positive especially before I go to sleep. I play scene in my head, I practice some things I want to say, I make plans for the next day, what to eat? what to wear, what to write, what to read and what stuff to buy. I think of all the people I miss and the one's I hate. hahah! As well as those who pissed me off that day. Nag iisip ako ng revenge! joke I have this endless what if's and I ask myself a lots ofstupid questions. 'gang abutin ako ng 3am gising pa'ko! hahah! Do you ever get this kind feeling? Nakakaloka!
Recently, while I was busy having a life. I've been wondering about current happenings around. A friend asked me about "do I want to change myself for someone else or pleasing people to like me?" sound insulting? right? kesyo mahalaga sakaniya yung approval ng isang tao, it's more important to be liked and accepted; and that made me question some things. ayun pala she was going through that problem pala. Why people always giving a f*ck about what other people think? why they love pleasing people? why let other peoples opinions define you?
They say it's a human nature to want to be liked and accepted. On how? PLEASING PEOPLE? Seriously, I don't really get the idea of pleasing people? for what? for them to be like me? If there is one thing in this world I would never ever do is - pleasing people, what I mean is we are in a world full of pretentious beings. Nowadays it is hard to determine who is real or who's not. Because some people have really mastered the art of pretension.
I remember the first time someone told me that changing my identity to fit another person’s ideal was manipulative. I was immediately offended and argued that it didn’t hurt the other person in any way, in fact, I felt like I was doing them a wonderful service.
I DONT LIKE YOU - four words we hate to hear. Some people aren't gonna like you, but that okay! but admit it, we hate it when people don't like us - even people we don't really know. Some of us will do almost anything to be liked. We love to please, even at the expense of our own happiness, values, beliefs and standards. but in that approval-seeking process we often forget who we are and end up being disliked by the one person whose opinion should matter the most. The more you desperately want to be like someone else, the more unworthy you feel. The more desperately you want to be happier, the more lonelier you become - though you are surrounded by awesome people. It is like a mental health problem we don't want. We must learn our weaknesses and accept them. Embrace our fear, faults and uncertainties. Start to face the brutal truth about yourself. Accept the reality that you cannot please everybody and we are not born to do that.
We can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn; to let our self free. It's a skill that needs to be practiced, like any other skills. Life ain’t fair and even though you may very well be a fantastic human being, some people will find a reason to dislike you no matter what you do or how fabulous you are. I know, that there are people who don’t like me who have never actually met me or had a conversation with me. That’s fine with me. You should know that
not everybody will like you for who you are and what you do and you just have to accept it. I won’t invest emotional energy into things I can’t change. ces't la vie. The only person I can change is me, so I’ll focus on improving, educating and developing myself rather than trying to create a fan club or convince people to like me. taray nu?! One of the biggest and most important was not to compromise my own identity for someone else. I don't think if we need to be all these "this, this, this and that" to be liked by people. For me, I do not need that and don't want to pretend to be someone I am not and do something I am not willing to do just to be loved and accepted. I am who I am; and it's up to people if they will like me or not. You cant control how others see you and think of you. I do not think if there is a need for you to pretend to be someone you're not infront of people just so they'd say good things about you. For as long as you know that you have done nothing wrong to anyone then I don't think there's something for you to be worried about.
Some people are probably to busy giving a damn about so many things around them that they've practically stopped living. Calm yo tits and look here, I don't give a rats ass about your life. Does it look like I care about what you do at an everyday basis? But you should always remember this;
We are not born to please everybody
Even though you may think you can continue pretending indefinitely, sooner or later you’ll hit a breaking point. Why waste time and energy on being something you’re not when you can spend it on becoming the best version of yourself?
The key to the good life you really need is giving a damn about what's important to your growth, career - walang halong showbiz lol! and total well-being. Live your life the way you want to be and stop seeking for people’s approval in everything you do. When you stop giving a damn about what people think, your self-confidence will definitely rise and you'll surely love every inch of your personality (self). Remember that there will always be people who will love you; but it’s best to be loved for who you really are than who you are trying to be. You will start to believe in yourself and what you can offer to the world, without letting other people influences stop you or affect you decision in life. How others see you is none of your business, at the end of the day what matters most is how you see yourself.
Everybody's Changing by Keane
"So little time
Try to understand that I'm
Trying to make a move just to stay in the game
I try to stay awake and remember my name
But everybody's changing
And I don't feel the same"
One of my fave song from Keane. Another perfect song for this hour. aylavet!
Thinking:
A lot of things! as in, mapa-negative and positive especially before I go to sleep. I play scene in my head, I practice some things I want to say, I make plans for the next day, what to eat? what to wear, what to write, what to read and what stuff to buy. I think of all the people I miss and the one's I hate. hahah! As well as those who pissed me off that day. Nag iisip ako ng revenge! joke I have this endless what if's and I ask myself a lots of
They say it's a human nature to want to be liked and accepted. On how? PLEASING PEOPLE? Seriously, I don't really get the idea of pleasing people? for what? for them to be like me? If there is one thing in this world I would never ever do is - pleasing people, what I mean is we are in a world full of pretentious beings. Nowadays it is hard to determine who is real or who's not. Because some people have really mastered the art of pretension.
I remember the first time someone told me that changing my identity to fit another person’s ideal was manipulative. I was immediately offended and argued that it didn’t hurt the other person in any way, in fact, I felt like I was doing them a wonderful service.
I DONT LIKE YOU - four words we hate to hear. Some people aren't gonna like you, but that okay! but admit it, we hate it when people don't like us - even people we don't really know. Some of us will do almost anything to be liked. We love to please, even at the expense of our own happiness, values, beliefs and standards. but in that approval-seeking process we often forget who we are and end up being disliked by the one person whose opinion should matter the most. The more you desperately want to be like someone else, the more unworthy you feel. The more desperately you want to be happier, the more lonelier you become - though you are surrounded by awesome people. It is like a mental health problem we don't want. We must learn our weaknesses and accept them. Embrace our fear, faults and uncertainties. Start to face the brutal truth about yourself. Accept the reality that you cannot please everybody and we are not born to do that.
We can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn; to let our self free. It's a skill that needs to be practiced, like any other skills. Life ain’t fair and even though you may very well be a fantastic human being, some people will find a reason to dislike you no matter what you do or how fabulous you are. I know, that there are people who don’t like me who have never actually met me or had a conversation with me. That’s fine with me. You should know that
not everybody will like you for who you are and what you do and you just have to accept it. I won’t invest emotional energy into things I can’t change. ces't la vie. The only person I can change is me, so I’ll focus on improving, educating and developing myself rather than trying to create a fan club or convince people to like me. taray nu?! One of the biggest and most important was not to compromise my own identity for someone else. I don't think if we need to be all these "this, this, this and that" to be liked by people. For me, I do not need that and don't want to pretend to be someone I am not and do something I am not willing to do just to be loved and accepted. I am who I am; and it's up to people if they will like me or not. You cant control how others see you and think of you. I do not think if there is a need for you to pretend to be someone you're not infront of people just so they'd say good things about you. For as long as you know that you have done nothing wrong to anyone then I don't think there's something for you to be worried about.
Some people are probably to busy giving a damn about so many things around them that they've practically stopped living. Calm yo tits and look here, I don't give a rats ass about your life. Does it look like I care about what you do at an everyday basis? But you should always remember this;
We are not born to please everybody
So stop giving a f*ck about everything you are not and start living. Remember that you don't have to fit in. You are not required to be like everybody. Don't fit it if it hurts. Don't be afraid to embrace your authentic self.
Even though you may think you can continue pretending indefinitely, sooner or later you’ll hit a breaking point. Why waste time and energy on being something you’re not when you can spend it on becoming the best version of yourself?
The key to the good life you really need is giving a damn about what's important to your growth, career - walang halong showbiz lol! and total well-being. Live your life the way you want to be and stop seeking for people’s approval in everything you do. When you stop giving a damn about what people think, your self-confidence will definitely rise and you'll surely love every inch of your personality (self). Remember that there will always be people who will love you; but it’s best to be loved for who you really are than who you are trying to be. You will start to believe in yourself and what you can offer to the world, without letting other people influences stop you or affect you decision in life. How others see you is none of your business, at the end of the day what matters most is how you see yourself.
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| cute ni JAMES FRANCO noh? |
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